You don’t have to convince me that you’re worth understanding.

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Hi, I’m Kaitlin Kezer, LMFT.

I work with people who are often pretty good at turning the blame inward. Maybe you’ve wondered if you’re too sensitive, too needy, not doing enough—or just somehow the problem.

Sitting across from a therapist can feel especially vulnerable when there’s a part of you worried I’m going to confirm the thing you’re already afraid is true. I’m much more interested in understanding what happened that made you start believing those things about yourself in the first place.

I believe we’re all pretty damn adaptable.

We figure out how to get through the environments and relationships we find ourselves in, even when we don’t always get the emotional care or connection we need.

The parts of yourself you’re frustrated with usually have a history. Maybe overthinking helped you feel prepared when things felt unpredictable. Saying yes kept you connected when saying no felt risky. There was a reason you learned to do what you do and you’ve done a good job getting yourself here.

That doesn’t mean you have to keep doing everything the same way. I want to understand these parts of you before we ask them to change—and help you discover what becomes possible when they don’t have to work quite so hard anymore.

This work really moves me.

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This work really moves me. 〰️

I get to witness someone’s relationship with themselves change. I meet people feeling overwhelmed and convinced they are failing.

Then, something shifts. They trust themselves. Pride shows up. They see themselves as capable in a way they couldn’t before.

Being there when someone starts experiencing their worth differently is powerful.

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What therapy with me is actually like.

My approach is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP). I’ve completed the EFT Externship and continue to receive training and consultation in both approaches. In normal-person language: I’m interested in what’s happening emotionally, not just the perfectly organized explanation of what happened last Tuesday.

I’m active in the room. I’ll ask questions, share what I’m noticing, and sometimes lovingly call attention to the thing you just tried to breeze right past. I’ll laugh with you when something is funny, and I won’t rush you out of the moments that hurt. You can expect me to be warm, engaged, and very much there with you.

When I’m not in the therapist chair...

A lot of my time is spent mommin’ with my toddler and getting out to enjoy San Diego whenever we can. I love working out, true crime podcasts, and a beverage on a sunny patio with my husband and friends. I’m also absolutely the person who sends a voice memo long enough to qualify as its own podcast episode.

Think we might click?

If you’re curious about working together, fill out the contact form and tell me a little about what’s going on. I’ll reach out from there and we can chat.